Sad Story ....

A story worth sharing


4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.



There was one particular day, when I had an ergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after forming my sleepy child.



With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet*** and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:


"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you
reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around,hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to
cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."


At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried

with the shower head on to mask my cries.** **After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while
coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed.


When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but
from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.


A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.


However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time,his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from
school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain.


But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer
games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite


is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too!



Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son
again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was :** **The letters were for Mummy.


My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was:
" I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."




After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say....

I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My
son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the letter before they turn to ash.


And one of the letters broke my heart....

Dear Mummy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a** **'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the
computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real
reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. ** **I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?

Tazkirah

Tanda Kebaikan


Daripada Mu'awiyah r.a.,katanya: "Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda:

"Sesiapa yang dikehendaki oleh Allah untuk memperoleh kebaikan, maka Allah membuat ia menjadi pandai dalam hal keagamaan."

(Muttafaq 'alaih)

 Jalan mudah ke syurga

 Daripada Abu Hurairah r.a., katanya: "Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda:

"Sesiapa yang menempuh suatu jalan untuk mencari ilmu pengetahuan di situ, maka Allah akan mempermudahkan baginya suatu jalan untuk menuju ke syurga."

(Riwayat Muslim)

 Pahala berganda

 Daripada Abu Hurairah r.a. pula bahwasanya Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda:

"Sesiapa yang mengajak kepada petunjuk (yakni kebenaran), maka baginya adalah pahala seperti pahala-pahala orang yang mengikutinya, tidak dikurangi sedikitpun dari pahala mereka itu."

(Riwayat Muslim)

 Daripada Abu Hurairah r.a., katanya: "Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda:

"Apabila anak Adam (yakni manusia) meninggal dunia, maka putuslah amalannya, melainkan dari tiga macam perkara, yaitu sedekah jariah atau ilmu yang dapat diambil kemanfaatannya atau anak yang soleh yang suka mendoakan untuknya."

(Riwayat Muslim)

Please be alert !

Someone shared the following cases :


(1) Today I passed by a building which has an ATM machine. There was an old man looking at me. Suddenly, he called me. He said he didn't know how to read, so he gave me his ATM card and asked me to help him withdraw money from the ATM machine. I answered 'NO!! If you need help, ask the security to help you.' Then he said 'never mind..' and continued to find other people to help him...

REMEMBER : ATM machines have CCTVs. If you help him he will later claim that you have robbed him or stolen his ATM card. Besides, his ATM card could be a stolen one. So please be careful of these tactics.

(2) Suddenly your house lights go off. >From your window you find that your neighbours still have lights. So you go out of your house to check the Meter Box. But once you open the door, a knife will be pointing at you and preventing you from closing it. This is when you will be robbed and injured.

REMEMBER : Even though your electricity suddenly goes off, DO NOT open your door immediately. Look around to see if there is anything unusual or if there is any noise around.

(3) This is another incident. You may have heard it before, it is about a lady who she saw a kid crying by the roadside. When she spoke to the kid, the kid told her he was lost and wanted her to take him home. The kid even gave her a paper with his house address. So she took him home. But when she rang the door bell, she had an electric shock. Later when she woke up, she was naked in an empty room.

REMEMBER : Being such a compassionate and helpful person might not be a good thing these days. Pass this on and girls, please be careful.. DON'T BE TOO KIND!!

(4) One day, there was an old lady outside my house holding 2 packets of sweets. At first I thought she was our neighbour and wanted to give us these packs of sweets as a gift. But then when she spoke, I can realised that she was foreigner. I could not understand what she was talking about. I guessed she must be asking for money.I sensed there was something wrong and immediately closed the door and ignored her. Later, I found she and an accomplice robbed someone else down the road.


(5) I was at the ATM machine to withdraw some money. Behind me, there was an old lady. She asked me whether I was able to withdraw my money because she said she had problem with her machine. Suddenly a small girl came up beside me. The small girl was squeezing in front of me. I thought she was just naughty and playful. But then, the small girl put her hand at the tray of the ATM machine where the money comes out, ready to take away my money. I sensed something wrong and immediately pushed her away. Later I realised that the small girl and the old lady worked together. She was trying to steal my money while the old lady was trying to distract my attention by asking me questions!

REMEMBER: BE VERY CAREFUL when you are at an ATM machine and be alert. Look out for anyone suspicious around you!

(6) My parents are retired and stay at home most days. One afternoon, a young stranger went to their house and said his motorcycle had no more petrol and the petrol station was too far for him to push his bike there. So he asked my parents for an empty coke bottle to buy some petrol. He said he will pay RM2 for the bottle. So my mum took one coke bottle for him. He really took out the money from his pocket, but it was a RM 100 note. He told my mum he had no small change and asked my mum to give him the change. Luckily my mum was smart. She just told him to take it for free.

REMEMBER : obviously that note is fake!! Who would want to pay for RM2 for an empty coke bottle!! It's very OBVIOUS that that stranger is a trickster.

(7) This happened in Bali . A newly married couple were having their honeymoon at the hotel. When both are in the changing room, the wife suddenly went missing. The husband was very anxious and went around to find her. He asked the hotel staff to help him find her. Then he thought his wife was just playing hide and seek. So he went back and waited for his wife. After a few hours, he decided to call the police. 3 weeks passed and there was still no news about his missing wife. So he went back and was

very disappointed and sad. A few years later, he came back to Bali , to watch a 'FREAK SHOW' in an old house. He saw a dirty and rusty metal cage. Inside there was a lady without limbs. Her body including the face was full of scars. When he had a closer look at her face, he was shocked to find that it was her missing wife put there as a means for begging.

(8) This happened in Shanghai. A few years ago, a lady reported to the police that her cousin sister was missing in the shopping complex. But after 5 years, one of her friends found her cousin sister begging at the road side one of the streets in Bangkok, Thailand . The worst thing is that her cousin sister has no more limbs and her body was tied to a lamp post with a shackle (metal chain).

(9) DO NOT open your house door when you hear the sound of a BABY CRYING!! It might be a trap! Women in the house

must be alert to this trick. The police said it is the work of a robber or murderer using the recording of a baby crying to attract your attention. This normally happens at night and when you are alone in the house.

(10) I read an email that was sent by my friend. Her friend, known as A, went to Luo Hu Commercial City with 2 friends, B and C. Luo Hu Commercial City is the Shenzhen counterfeit goods distribution centre. There are many people there. It's also near to the ShenZhen train station and Hong Kong's Luo Hu Port.

C went to the toilet at the shopping centre while A and B waited outside. After waiting for a long, time they felt uneasy and went into the toilet to look for her. When they went in, there was nobody inside. Both were scared and they called C's phone. There was no reply. So they reported to the police.

The police asked them whether they had seen anybody suspicious going into the toilet. Both said there were none and its impossible to bring a life person out of the toilet without them noticing!. Then A remembered seeing a cleaner pushing a trolley in, and then coming out. The police told them that was not the 1st time such a thing happened. The police suspected a gang of criminals who were always attacking women in the toilet of shopping complexes. They use cleaners to kidnap people to harvest their organs for sale.

REMEMBER : please be careful when using the toilet. Don't go to the wash room or toilet ALONE!! Please at least have a partner with you.

Selamat Menunaikan Haji untuk Kakak Ipar Ku ... Che' Nyah

Buat Che' Nyah & Nyah, semoga mendapat haji mabrur & All U do/did/done mendapat keberkatan dari Allah. Selamat pergi & pulang dengan penuh keberkatan Illahi. AMIN !!!

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Bahaya mineral botol dalam kereta

Peringatan Utk Wanita:


Hai para wanita, air dalam botol plastik di dlm Kereta Anda, sangatlahberbahaya!!! !

Dengan cara inilah Sheryl Crow mengalami kanser payudara. Dia tampil di acara Ellen show dan mengatakan hal yang sama persis. Hal ini telah

diidentifikasikan sebagai penyebab paling utama pada kanser payudara,terutama di Australia ...
Seorang teman yang ibunya didiagnosa mengidap kanser payudara baru-baru ini.
Doktor berkata : wanita tidak boleh meminum minuman yang sudah lama berada di dalam Kereta.

Doktor berkata bahwa hawa panas yang memanaskan bahan plastik dalam botol memiliki bahan kimia tertentu yang dapat menyebabkan kanser payudara. Jadi tolong berhati-hatilah dan jangan minum air dalam botol plastik yang sudah ditinggalkan
di dalam Kereta, dan kirimkan ke teman-teman wanita Anda.

Informasi seperti ini sangatlah kita perlukan dan kita harus berhati-hati, dan mungkin akan menyelamatkan hidup kita. Hawa panas dapat menyebabkan toksin/racun dari plastik menjadi bocor dan bercampur dengan air dan mereka telah menemukan racun ini pada jaringan payudara. Sebisa mungkin gunakan gelas stainless steel atau botol kaca.

komen nuhamih : air mineral tu udah-udah le ghenti tak yah minum, buatje air basuh tgn ke bila kecemasan, simpan je dlm bonet. jgn dibuang, membazir ....

Cara membaca Surah Yassin dgn betul sewaktu seseorang menghadapi Sakaratul Maut

Boleh jadi iktibar untuk kita, pesan kat anak2 bila dah sampai masa kita nanti..


Assalammualaikum,

Surau Darussaadah di Keramat Permai telah mengadakan ceramah umum mengenai Isra' Mikraj oleh Ustaz Abdullah Mahmud.

Berikut adalah sedikit sebanyak intipati ceramah yang ingin saya kongsi bersama rakan2 sekalian:-

Menurut Ustaz, masyarakat Melayu telah lama buat salah dalam 'membantu' seseorang mengahdapi sakaratul maut.. Menjadi kebiasaan, kita akan mengelilingi orang yang tengah nazak dengan masing2 membaca surah Yasin, dengan bacaan yang tersendiri dan bermacam2 ragam (setengah dengan

tartil, setengah bacaan laju). Perbuatan sebegini akan menjadikan orang yang tengah nazak merasa lebih kelam kabut (kerana menurut ustaz sebelum datangnya kematian, kita 'disibukkan' dengan segala gambaran perbuatan kita di dunia).

Kaedah yang sepatutnya diamalkan ialah:-

i) Lantik seorang yang bacaan Alquran nya baik (dari segi tajwid) untuk membaca surah Yasin - yang lain2 boleh bersama2 semak.

ii) Sebaik2 orang yang dilantik itu adalah anak ataupun saudara terdekat yang mempunyai perasaan kasih pada orang yang tengah nazak.

iii) Merenung wajah orang tengah nazak sebelum surah Yasin dibaca untuk menimbulkan rasa belas kasihan dan mudah2an surah yang dibaca boleh membantu pencabutan nyawa beliau.

iv) Membaca 3 hingga 4 kalimah Surah Yasin, berhenti, dan menolong (menuntun) beliau untuk melafaz "Laa ila ha illallah".

v) Kemudian menyambung semula bacaan, baca 3 hingga 4 kalimah, berhenti lagi, dan menolong beliau mengucap "Laa ila haillallah" lagi.

vi) Diteruskan sehingga lah beliau menghembuskan nafas yang terakhir.

Semoga ini dapat meningkatkan lagi ilmu pengetahuan kita dalam 'membantu' saudara mara atau mak ayah kita dalam menghadapi sakaratul maut. Dan semoga kita mendapat segala rahmat serta hidayah NYA dlm membuat amal kebajikan dengan cara yang betul bukan semata2 melalui ikutan adat. Amiin.

Wassalam.

9 Tips For Being Happier at Work

9 Tips For Being Happier at Work


• By Karen Burns

• On 12:01 pm EDT, Wednesday October 7, 2009

You'd think that anyone who still has a job in this economy would be necessarily happy. But, guess what? It's still possible to be miserable in your job, even if you are grateful to have it.

Since most of us spend a sizable portion of our waking hours at work it's important to try to optimize that time, happiness-wise. Here are nine tips:

Clean up your workspace. Most humans are happier, more at peace, and more productive in clean and organized surroundings. You will be, too. So, tidy up. If possible at your company, go a step further and decorate your workspace with objects that make you feel happy--a photo of your loved one, a green plant, a bright sunny yellow pencil cup. (Note: Please keep the decorating within reason.)

Eat better. This not only means bringing or buying a tasty and nutritious lunch, but also just saying "no" to mindless all-day junky snacking. Sure, sugar and carbs go down easily and create a quick high. In the long run, they will wear you down, not to mention, make you fat. News flash: Good nutrition makes you feel healthier. And thus, happier.

Smile. Sounds overly simplistic, doesn't it? But research has found that acting a certain way leads us to feel that way--it's called "self-perception theory." So act happy. Soon your brain will start to think happy.

Do things differently. The same old-same old, day after day, unchanging routine is a surefire recipe for the blahs. Where you can, shake up the routine parts of your job by doing them in a different order, or at a different time of the day. Or find a new way to do an old boring thing.

Look for the good. Try the "gratitude list" system: Each night before falling asleep, identify three things at work you're grateful for. No matter how small. Say them out loud. Recognizing the good that already exists in your daily life makes you happier. Really and truly.

Move your body. Maybe your work is very physical, but the truth is that many of us spend our days hunched in front of a computer, squinting at a screen. Find ways to incorporate physical activity into your day. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Take a brisk walk at lunch, preferably outside.

Find someone at work who encourages your development. Some people call this a "mentor." No matter what your job, or your level, you can find a mentor to advise you, listen to you, help you solve problems, and give you a sense of perspective. Alternatively, become a mentor yourself! Helping others makes us happier.

Seek recognition for a job well done. No one likes the obnoxious types who are constantly tooting their own horn. But, if you are doing a great job and no one knows about it, that's bad, too. So if, say, you've invented a filing system that saves paper don't keep it to yourself. Write a short memo to your boss describing the new system. Keep a copy.

Look for opportunities to learn and grow. Sure, funding for classes and training may have dried up at your company but that doesn't mean you have to stay stagnant. Ask your boss if you can cross-train with coworkers. Take advantage of those professional journals lying around the break room. Request new duties that will require you to work with people who know things you want to learn. Your workday and work-life will be more interesting.

There's a bonus to all this happiness-mongering. We are often told that success leads to happiness, but, really, it's the other way around. Happiness leads to success. If you are happier at work, you will be a better worker. If you are a better worker, you will be a more valuable worker. If you are a more valuable worker, chances are you will be harder to replace (job security!). You'll be in line for promotions and raises (eventually)--ultimately helping to make you, well, happier.

Karen Burns is the author of the illustrated career advice book The Amazing Adventures of Working Girl: Real-Life Career Advice You Can Actually Use, recently released by Running Press. She blogs at www.karenburnsworkinggirl.com